Inkwano z’ubu bamwe bazigize ubucuruzi

Ababyeyi b’umuhungu ni bo bajya gusaba umugeni,bakemeranya inkwano,bagakwa. Gusa abantu benshi ntibabivugaho rumwe,kuko hari abatumva impamvu ari ishimwe ry’umubyeyi w’umukobwa wenyine,ntihagire n’iry’umubyeyi w’umuhungu kandi bose baba barareze, ndetse n’abana babo bose bakaba bagiye mu rugo rushya rwabo bagasiga ababyeyi.

Bamwe mu baganiriye na Kigali Today bavuga ko kuba inkwano ihabwa iwabo w’umukobwa biterwa n’uko umuco ubigena ndetse ko kurera umukobwa bigora kurusha umuhungu. Gusa hari n’abandi babona ko bidakwiye ko hashimwa uruhande rumwe,bakabyita kudaha agaciro ihame ry’uburinganire, kugira umukobwa igicuruzwa,ndetse no kubogamira uruhande rumwe.

Uwitwa Bamuhoze Donatha urangije kaminuza avuga ko impamvu inkwano ari ishimwe ry’umubyeyi w’umukobwa, ari uko kurera umukobwa bitavuna nko kurera umuhungu,kuko umukobwa asaba kwitabwaho byihariye kugira ngo azavemo umugore muzima.

Ati “Uzi kurinda agakobwa kawe bakakajyana agaseke kagipfundikiye? Biravuna cyane! Ariko umuhungu we n’iyo yaba byararangiye nta bimenyetso wabona,kandi usanga amakosa y’umugore ari yo agaragara mbere.”

Naho Dushimimana wo mu Karere ka Bugesera mu Murenge wa Mayange we avuga ko impamvu inkwano zijya iwabo w’umukobwa, ari uko n’ubundi iwabo w’umuhungu baba basa n’abakimufite, kandi ko ari bo baza gusaba umugeni. Akomeza avuga ko nta muntu ukunze gusaba umukwe ubufasha, keretse byamurenze.

Ati “Ariko njye mbona umubyeyi w’umuhungu akomeza gusa n’ukimufite,naho umukobwa ugiye aba agiye! Ubu ntugire ngo nyina w’umukobwa yamukenera! Yaganya yumva agategereza ko yibwiriza kuko azi ko nta burenganzira n’imyanzuro yaba afite iwe! Naho umuhungu we yamubwira ati ariko nk’ubu iyo ubona…”

Ubushobozi bw’imiryango hari abo bubangamira mu rukundo rwabo

Gusa hari n’abandi bavuga ko usibye kubahiriza umuco, batumva impamvu yo gushima uruhande rumwe, kandi bose baragize uruhare mu kurera abana babo, kandi bakaba baba bagiye kubashyingirana bombi ntibongere kubana na bo.

Nzeyimana wo mu Karere ka Gisagara, Umurenge wa Kansi avuga ko nta mpamvu n’imwe abona yo kurobanura ushimwa, kandi bose barareze, ndetse hakaba hari n’igihe umuhungu atangwaho byinshi kurusha umukobwa, kuko akenshi usanga umuhungu ari we wize amashuri menshi, cyangwa afite ubushobozi buruta ubw’umukobwa.

Ati “Utekereza ko iwabo w’umuhungu bo batarera? Ahubwo usanga baranarishye amashuri y’umurengera, bakamushakira imibereho izamubeshaho igihe azaba yubatse urwe bamushakira akazi, mwarangiza ngo tujye gushimira iwabo w’ umukobwa bareze neza ra!”

Akomeza avuga ko hari n’igihe mu misango yo gusaba hazamo no guciririkanya ku nkwano nk’abagurisha, aho ababyeyi b’umukobwa baka akayabo k’inkwano, bitwaje ko hari amafaranga batanze ku mukobwa, bakirengagiza ayo batanze ku muhungu.

Ati “Ahubwo mu gusaba usanga iwabo w’umukobwa yahanitse ibiciro,ukagira ngo aragurisha itungo ra! Ngo namurihiye amashuri, afite akazi keza, ahubwo ugasanga kenshi umuhungu baje gusabira akubye kabiri ibyo bavuga!”

Rutayisire Fidele, umuyobozi nshingwabikorwa w’umuryango nyarwanda w’abagabo biyemeje guteza imbere ihame ry’uburinganire hagati y’umugore n’umugabo, bakanarwanya ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina ( RWAMREC) , na we ntiyemera inkwano nk’ishimwe ry’ababyeyi.

Agira ati “Inkwano ubwayo twebwe tuvuga ko ari ikibazo. Kubera ko inkwano ishingiye ku muryango nyarwanda aho ibintu byose bireba abagabo, bigatuma umugabo yumva ko agize imbaraga zo kuba umutware w’urugo. Yewe twebwe twifuza ko inkwano ivaho! Kuko inkwano iteza ibibazo byinshi kuko ntikiri ishimwe ahubwo yabaye nk’ubucuruzi.”

Niyibizi Lea Liliane usanzwe ukora ubukangurambaga (activist) mu kurwanya ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina, na we yagize icyo abivugaho, ati “Ku bwanjye numva uko dufata inkwano mu muco nyarwanda kuri uyu munsi inkwano yarataye agaciro kayo. Hari uburyo yafatwaga kera, nko guhuza imiryango.”

Akomeza agira ati “Ntabwo yafatwaga nk’ishimwe ahubwo yafatwaga nk’igihuza imiryango kuko umukobwa yavaga iwabo akajya iwabo w’umuhungu, ariko ubu bose bava iwabo. Numva rero dukurikije uko isigaye ifatwa bayikuraho.”

Arongera ati “Biramutse byiswe ishimwe, imiryango yose yajya igira icyo itanga. Kuri njyewe rero ikwano ubundi mu gifaransa babyita ‘dot’ ,bivuze ko inkwano ari icyo umuntu azana kigira uruhare mu gufasha kubaka urugo. Niba iyo nkwano ari ije kubaka urugo, ibyo nta kibazo! Igahabwa wa muryango mushyashya. Ariko niba ari ihabwa umuryango umwe w’umwe mu bagiye kubaka urugo, ibyo biracyari ikibazo."

Minisitiri w’Umuco na Siporo, Nyirasafari Esperance, aherutse gutangaza ko nta giciro cy’inkwano kibaho kandi ko inkwano itagombye guciririkanywa kuko umuntu atari igicuruzwa.

Yasobanuye kandi ko inkwano idakwiye kuba ikibazo hagati y’imiryango, ahubwo ko ari ikimenyetso cyiza cy’urukundo gikwiye gutuma imiryango irushaho gukundana no kubana neza.

Itegeko Nº 32/2016 ryo muri 2016 rigenga abantu n’umuryango, mu ngingo yaryo ya 167 rivuga ko “Ishyingirwa rikorewe imbere y’ubutegetsi rishobora kubanzirizwa n’imihango gakondo ndangagaciro y’umuryango nyarwanda irimo iyi ikurikira:

1° umuhango wo gusaba no gufata irembo uhuza imiryango y’abifuza gushyingiranwa ikemeranwa ko nta nzitizi yo gushyingiranya abana bayo;

2° umuhango wo gusaba umugeni no gukwa ugaragaza amasezerano y’ubwumvikane hagati y’imiryango ibiri (2) yemeranya ko umuhungu n’umukobwa bayikomokaho bazashyingiranwa kandi ko iyo miryango yombi izakomeza gufasha no guhagararira ishyingirwa ryabo. Icyakora, iyo inkwano itabonetse ntibibuza amasezerano y’ubushyingiranwa kwemerwa.”