Nibajije ko byaba ari muganga, kuko niba hari umuntu uba ufite ijambo rikomeye cyane ku mugore utwite ni muganga, ku buryo aba akeneye kumva ijambo amubwiye, rero mu gihe amuhaye amabwiriza runaka yitwararika kuyubahiriza mu buryo bwose, kugira ngo akomeze kubungabunga ubuzima bw’umwana we. Aha bivuze ko amubwiye kwambara akenda kagufi yagerageza koko akabikurikiza cyane.

Ibi ni ibigaragarira abantu benshi, yaba mu Mujyi wa Kigali, cyangwa mu tundi duce ubona turimo gutera imbere, aho usanga abagore benshi batwite bambaye imyenda migufi, ndetse bamwe twayita migufi cyane ugereranyije n’iyo aba yari asanzwe yambara ataratwita kandi ukabona aratekanye nta cyo bimutwaye.

Ibi kandi ubona abagore benshi barabihigiye, aho ashobora kujya kugura umwenda akawukunda ariko yawambara akabona ni mugufi cyane, akagira ati « Uyu sinatinyuka kuwambara keretse wenda ntwite» ubwo akawugura ngo azawutwitiramo( iyo ari guteganya gutwita vuba). Hari n’undi witegura gukora ubukwe akabwira umudodera imyenda gushyiramo utugufi ngo azatwitiramo.

Sinzi niba ibi twavuga ko biterwa no kwigana bamwe bakunda kwiyambarira n’ubusanzwe imyenda migufi akumva noneho gutwita bimuha amahirwe yo gukabya, niba ari bamwe babonana abandi ibintu bakabona birababereye cyangwa bakabyifuza bakabura uko babyadukana muri sosiyete bakazategereza batwite ubwo bakitwaza ko ari impinduka zibabayeho, cyane ko mu muco wacu abagore batwite babubaha cyangwa babitwararika, bityo akumva ko ntawuzamuvugisha cyangwa uzamunenga bakabyakira batyo, simbizi neza ikibibatera.

Sindi buvuge ngo ni byiza cyangwa ni bibi kwambara imyenda migufi umuntu atwite cyane cyane ko ari uburenganzira bw’umuntu kwambara ibyo ashaka, ariko ku giti cyanjye umuntu udasanzwe yambara umwenda mu gufi, akabigambirira mu gihe azaba atwite mbona bidasa neza pe. Hari n’ukubwira ngo aba yumva ubushyuhe nyamara ugasanga yambaye umupira w’imbeho ubona ko yasheshe n’urumeza ku maguru ariko akihangana, cyangwa bikagutera no kwibaza niba yari abizi na mbere ko azatwita akonja kuko yayiguze kera ataratwita.

Ahubwo ku bwanjye mbona n’uwari usanzwe yambara migufi, mu gihe atwite yagerageza akambara umuremure gusumbaho, kuko noneho n’inda iwuterura ukabona n’uwari usanzwe utari mugufi cyane wakabije. Hari n’abavuga ko umuntu utwite wambaye umwenda muremure ataba ari umusirimu cyangwa atanaberwa. Ariko nabwo umugore utwite byaba ngombwa ko yicara akabura uko yicara kubera umwenda yambaye sinzi ubusirimu yaba afite cyangwa ikigero cyo kuberwa yaba ariho.

Nyamara burya niba ari na byo, ubusirimu buratandukanye no kuberwa na byo biratandukanye. Nyirakanaka ntuzamubone yiyambariye ibintu bimubereye ngo wumve ko nawe byanze bikunze bizakubera cyangwa ugomba kubyambara. Kugaragaza ubwambure mbona bisa nabi, kereka nibura ari wo mwuga wahisemo tukagufata dutyo. Naho nujya kwigana yigane n’ibifite umumaro cyangwa afitiye n’ibisobanuro atari uko gusa yabibonanye abandi.

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