Iki ni ikintu abantu benshi bahuriraho, aho baba bemeza ko abagore bo mu Rwanda bambara imyenda migufi, abandi bakakumvisha ko ahubwo bambara migufi cyane. Ariko aha uhita wibaza aho umwenda mugufi uhera kugira ngo koko twemere ko ari migufi, binatume tunemeranya ko koko imwe yaba ari migufi cyane, dukurikije uko bamwe babivuga.

Impamvu nibaza ibi ni uko ushobora kubona itsinda ry’abakobwa cyangwa abagore batambutse ku bantu runaka, wajya kumva ukumva ngo ndebera uko abakobwa basigaye bambara imyenda migufi, hari n’ababikabiriza bati bambara ubusa. Nyamara wakwitegereza ugasanga abo bakobwa imyenda bambaye ntabwo igera hamwe (mbese na yo ntireshya) nyamara ukumva bose babashyira mu gatebo kamwe bati « Bambaye imyenda migufi. » Byatumye nibaza nti « Mbese ubwo ubundi umwenda uba ugera hehe kugira ngo witwe mugufi ? »

Aho ibi ubonera ko bidafite igipimo runaka ni uko na ba nyiri kuyambara, umwe koko ashobora kukwemerera ko we akunda imyenda migufi akaba koko anayambara, ariko undi yakumva bamuvuze ngo yambaye umwenda mugufi, bikamuyobera akikanga akubwira ati « Reka reka ntabwo uyu mwenda ari mugufi namba » Ibi bigaragaza rero ko umwe ashobora kubibona ukwe undi akabibona ukwe kuko nta gipimo cyashyizweho cy’aho umwenda wagakwiye kugera, noneho ku buryo uharenze abantu bose bahita babyemeranya ko koko uwo muntu yambaye umwenda mugufi.

Icyakora hari amatorero n’amadini amwe n’amwe, aba yarashyizeho urugero ntarengwa umuntu atakwambara umwenda uri hejuru y’urwo rugingo, ubwo yabirengaho akaba yambaye umwenda mu gufi, kuko baba barashizeho urwo rugero, bakabyumvikana batyo cyangwa bakabyizera batyo. (Urugero hari abavuga ko umugore atagakwiye kwambara umwenda uri hejuru y’amavi, abandi bati umwenda ugaragaza agatsintsino uba ari mugufi) nyamara hari n’undi wiyambarira uwo ashatse bitewe n’uburebure akunda. Icyakora hari n’imiryango imwe ishyiraho itegeko ry’imyenda runaka abantu bagize uwo muryango bagomba kwambara. Abo kuko baba bafite ibyo bemeranyije ubirengaho, afatwa nk’uwambaye umwenda mugufi.

Mbona umuntu yambara umwenda kuko yumva ari byo akunze, ndetse ari bwo burebure yakunze bitewe n’igihe cyangwa n’aho agiye. Kuba ari mugufi cyangwa ari muremure biterwa n’umuntu uri kubireba. Numva rero icyo kwanzura ko abagore b’Abanyarwandakazi bambara imyenda migufi, tutabigira iteka, kuko mu Rwanda nta kigero twumvikanyeho ku buryo umuntu ukirengeje twaheraho twemeza ko yambaye umwenda mugufi.

Ariko na none kuko umuntu afite uburenganzira bwo kuvuga uko abona ibintu. Numva ibyiza ari uko yavuga ati «Ku bwanjye ndabona uriya mukobwa cyangwa umugore yambaye umwenda mugufi »

Ni ku giti cyawe wowe ubireba kuko nta cyita rusange mu Rwanda dufite cyo kuvuga ko umwenda ari mugufi.

Iki ni igitekerezo cy’umunyamakuru Mukazayire Immaculée Youyou