Iyo ibi babigarukaho, akenshi baba bavuga umugabo cyangwa umugore wubatse, ariko waciye inyuma uwo bashakanye akajya gusambana n’undi mugabo cyangwa undi mugore. Ariko bamwe bakagaragaza ko guca inyuma uwo mwashakanye nibura byakorwa n’abagabo naho abagore batari bakwiye kubikora kuko bigaragara nabi, mbese ku mugore biba ari umwanda.

Aha bintera kwibaza ibi bintu aho bitandukaniye, ku buryo umugabo wafashwe asambana bifatwa nk’aho ari ikosa riciriritse yakoze ndetse ari bimwe mu bigize umugabo, nyamara yaba umugore ufashwe yasambanye agafatwa nk’uwakoze amahano, kandi bombi ari icyaha kimwe bakoze.

Mu Rwanda, itegeko Ngenga N° 01/2012/OL ryo kuwa 02/05/2012 rishyiraho igitabo cy’amategeko ahana, ku ngingo ya 244 y’umutwe twavuze haruguru, ubusambanyi buhabwa igisobanuro cy’uko ari “Imibonano mpuzabitsina ikozwe n’uwashyingiwe ku buryo bwemewe n’amategeko, akayikorana n’uwo batashyingiranywe.”

Ku ngingo ya 245, havugwamo ko umuntu wese uhamwe n’icyaha cy’ubusambanyi, ahanishwa igifungo kuva ku mezi atandatu (6) kugeza ku mwaka umwe (1). Iri tegeko ntiritandukanya umugabo n’umugore. Ariko iyo bigeze muri sosiyete usanga abantu babitandukanya bakagaragaza ko ubusambanyi bw’umugabo butandukanye n’ubw’umugore, kandi nyamara byose ari ubusambanyi.

Ibi bintanganza cyane iyo abagabo n’abagore bicaranye, ukabona bose baremeranywa bati "burya wabona umugabo asambana ariko ntukabone umugore wasambanye biba ari umwanda" Ni gute ibi bitandukanywa kandi byose ari igikorwa kimwe?

Nta muntu wemerewe gusambana yaba umugabo cyangwa umugore. Uwahisemo kubikora ni uko aba yumva we yemeye gukora iyo ngeso mbi. Niba rero sosiyete yemera ko ari icyaha ndetse binasa nabi muri sosiyete, bivuze ko ari umugabo wabikoze ndetse n’umugore wabikoze, bose bafatwe kimwe.

Ku bwanjye mbona ibi byagakwiye gufatwa kimwe nta kubatandukanya. Umusambanyi wese ni umusambanyi. Ntawe usambana ngo bibe isuku, hanyuma undi nabikora bibe umwanda.