Yego, turabyemeranyaho ko no mu Rwanda hambere, ahari umukobwa cyangwa umugore byari bigoye ko utahasanga indabo, ziteye zikikije urugo, cyangwa baziciye bakazitegura. Ariko ibi byo guhabwa indabo kuri buri mugore zivuye kugurwa amafaranga atari na make kuri benshi, ubu nibwo mbona byakataje.

Uko imyaka igenda ihita ni ko mu Rwanda ahakoreshwa indabo hagiye hiyongera, ndetse hamwe rwose wabona nta ndabo zihari, ubwo icyo gikorwa kigafatwa nk’ikitabaye. Aha ndavuga mu bukwe no mu gushyingura.

Bukeye kabiri, haza kwaduka guha indabo umugore wabyaye, akenshi azihawe n’umugabo we, nyuma n’abandi ba hafi bakomerezaho na bo ugasanga bazimuzaniye nk’impano. Nyuma yaho hakurikiraho, kujya kwakira umuntu ku Kibuga cy’indege, na byo biramenyerwa ko ugiye kwakira umuntu uje bamushyira indabo, ibyo na byo biramenyerwa, hazaho guha indabo umugore warangije amasomo ye, cyane cyane aya kaminuza. None ubu aho bigeze, kugira ngo umugore agaragarizwe urukundo igihe icyo ari cyo cyose, biri gusaba ururabo!

Ubu hirya no hino, abagore bari guhabwa indabo, nta n’igikorwa nyirizina cyabaye, cyangwa zimwe na ba nyiri kuzitanga, cyangwa kuzihabwa bakaba batagusobanurira impamvu y’icyo gikorwa. Yego ngo abazihabwa baba bazikunda cyane da! Reka tubyemere. None se ubu umugore wese wiyumvamo ubusirimu akunda indabo?

Ubu umugore urwaye bisanzwe yaba mu bitaro cyangwa mu rugo, acigatira indabo, kugira ngo bigaragare ko ari umusirimu, cyangwa ko aziranye n’abasirimu. Uwagize ibyago, bamusurisha indabo, umwana we atsinze ku ishuri bakamuha ururabo,...Noneho uwiyumvamo ubusirimu cyane we, buri mpera z’icyumweru ( weekend) ahabwa indabo. Ubwo umusore cyangwa umugabo bakundana yaba atabikoze, akitwa ko atari umusirimu cyangwa atazi gukunda no gutetesha.

Ni byo rwose, ntabwo ngiye kuvuga ko indabo atari nziza, wenda koko hari n’abantu bazikunda cyane ku buryo uzimuhaye, aba abona ari impano nziza cyane, nawe urumuhaye ukamenya ko umukoze ku mutima koko. Ariko hari bimwe mba mbona bimeze nk’urwigano rudafite icyo rumaze pe!

Ntabwo mbona ko ururabo ari ngombwa kuri buri muntu, ku buryo hari n’abategura gusura umuntu, bakajyana n’ururabo kugira ngo bagaragaze ko ari abasirimu, wenda uwo banarushyiriye nta gaciro aruha, cyane ko ari n’ikintu kiba kitari bumare igihe, ruhita rwangirika. Ubwo icy’ayo mafaranga aruguze yanakora ibindi, reka yo nyihorere kuko ubwo ababikora baba bafite menshi.

Yego, umuntu ubonye wifotoreje ku ndabo biba bisa neza rwose. Ariko si ibintu numva byaba birebire cyane, ngo buri wese agiye kubyigana, ubwo ngo bitere inkeke n’abantu bawe ba bugufi, ngo ugomba guhabwa indabo kugira ngo ugaragaze ko uri umusirimu.

Noneho ibi bintangaza cyane, iyo ugize utya, ukaba wabaza umugore mugenzi wa wa wundi impano waha mugenzi we, agahera ku ndabo, hari igihe arenzaho n’indi mpano cyangwa akanakumvisha ko indabo zihagije. Ibi bintu byatumye nibaza niba umugore wese akunda indabo bigeze kuri uru rwego n’igihe byatangiriye.

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